The response wasn't that I was necessarily looking for attention, but I was expressing what I was seeing. Had we really just come to a point where we stop seeking relationships and just use message boards to hit up each other for sex, because no one is willing to risk their hearts? I considered my own life. Seriously, I hadn't WANTED to open up myself. I hadn't wanted to be vulnerable. By being anonymous, I found that I was feeling the freedom to simply express the observations of what I was seeing. From 2 am - 10:21 am today, I received 50 responses before my ad was flagged for being 'inappropriate'.
I only received three replies that unleashed a world of hate towards me, waiting to bait me with the ever popular C--- and unleashing assorted personal attacks. Sadly, they personalized my observations and didn't realize that they were about the general quality of Craigslist posts.
47 messages were incredibly encouraging.
"im 25 years old and I AM NOT LOOKING TO HOOK UP WITH YOU !!!! i just wanted to wish you the best in finding someone to love and spend the rest of your life with, i was in a relationship for 6 years, and ive been single for a little over a year now and i have pretty much givin up on even trying to find anyone..."
That means the MAJORITY are also tired of the meaningless kinds of 'relationships' that are advertised on Craigslist.
"I sincerely hope you connect with someone worthy of the mind and heart you so obviously have.
I don't do online dating at all and have only recently perused the CL lists out of lonely curiosity, originally only looking for a cheap bed (the furniture kind, that is), but from the few days I've peeked in on these personals I can heartily agree with how sad so much of the people's atittudes are towards approaching a relationship.
We've both made it through a very hard winter that is perhaps a good metaphor for the state of our hearts, and I wish you luck and hope the Spring finds you some joy."
"What you said in your post so eloquently describes what's wrong with many of us, men and women, in today's society. I'm 25, and I hate how my generation defines Love and Relationships. I can't find anyone compatible because I get labeled "Old-Fashioned" and "Desperate" because I'm paying attention to what emotions a person invokes in me and vice versa. Your words stated that perfectly and it's refreshing to read. "
"(Begins slow clapping)
I'm glad that someone has FINALLY had the guts and nerve to address the issues with a lot of these posts and the impossible matches they're looking for.
I agree that almost all men on here are looking for sex and that's it, there's nothing wrong with wanting to have sex but it doesn't compare to making love with that special person who you connect with on multiple levels. I've had two partners in my life and it's by choice, I'm a gentleman who takes the time to know someone before just jumping into bed with them.
I wish you the best of luck on your search and wish you happiness."
But mainly this response was what I was seeking, a confirmation that I wasn't the ONLY one who was seeing this.
"Enjoyed Reading your posting!
I am a bit too old for you at 59, But yust wanted to let you know
there are guys out there looking for the same things.
Again Well Said! and Best wishes in your search."
No, I really am not seeking anyone through the virtual world and I am NOT criticizing people who do find love that way. If it happens for me, I want it to be in the real world through an imperfect situation in the course of everyday life. That's how I would love for it to happen.
However bleak it may look, there are others out there wanting to believe again, but this time, I think we are all realizing that a list doesn't really work. What does work is being that person that is loving and kind in order to attract the good in the world. Or something like that. We are NOT alone.
Here's to love and not giving up. Love still exists, with or without someone to share it with.